Reading Between the Lines of the "I'm Not Sorry" Chronicles
So I've been reading a bunch of the "I'm Not Sorry" stories over at ImNotSorry.Net, and I believe they are, for the most part, perfect evidence of what I have been arguing here from the beginning: women in our society are pressured into abortion by a variety of social and economic circumstances which seem insurmountable. If we really want to put an end to abortion (both legal and illegal), we have to work to eliminate these coercive social and economic pressures. Changes in the law and its application are insufficient!
Why are the women at "I'm Not Sorry" not sorry? Most did not believe they had workable and acceptable alternatives to abortion. Faced with the choice between being thrown out on the streets by her parents or getting an abortion, neither of which probably seemed appealing, a girl aborted her child. She's "not sorry" she was not rejected and evicted by her family. When people tell her the decision to abort was bad or wrong, she understandably thinks--and perhaps even says--something like "What the hell did you want me to do? Live alone and destitute on the streets with a baby born in a gutter?" The same could be said about most of these stories. Forced to choose between two horrors, these women chose one and are "not sorry" they did not have to live with the other. They resent the implication that being rejected and evicted, being beaten, etc., would have been a "good" choice or that they should be "forced" to endure those other alternatives (e.g. if abortion was not legal and/or accessible). So the website has a very defensive tone.
I don't believe that anything justifies killing an innocent human being, but these women's self-justifying stories--anti-apologetic apologia, if you will--are completely understandable. Women deserve better than abortion--and better than the abortion alternatives these women faced. I urge all my readers, if you have not already done so, to read Frederica Mathewes-Green's Real Choices. Join Feminists for Life of America, and contribute anything you can to their College Outreach Program! Learn more about the Nurturing Network and get involved! We can eliminate most, if not all, of the coercive factors that drive women to abortion. The first step is listening to women and finding out what those coercive factors are. The "I'm Not Sorry" crowd may not know it yet, but they're actually helping us to eliminate abortion.
Tune in Pro-Life Feminist Patricia Heaton
Feminists for Life's honorary chair, Patricia Heaton, is the subject of "Biography" on A&E on Tuesday, April 1, at 8 p.m. The show will discuss her career, her family and her role as FFL honorary chair.
Ms. Heaton, who currently appears on the television show "Everybody Loves Raymond", is a two-time Emmy winner for her role as Debra. She is also a New York Times bestselling author.
If you'd like to know more about this "Remarkable Pro-Life Woman" and hear her talk about Feminists for Life on national television, tune in!
Mike Epstein cited this article on his blog back in February, commenting, "Abortion's good for women, huh?" In case you missed it:
Tape: Blake Berates Wife Over Pregnancy, Recording Is Played During Hearing
"How quickly a 'woman's right to choose' comes to serve a 'man's right to use.'" --Juli Loesch
By Linda Deutsch, Associated Press
Washington Post Thursday, February 27, 2003; Page C08
LOS ANGELES, Feb. 26 -- A retired homicide detective testified today that actor Robert Blake told him in 1999 that he had impregnated a woman during a one-night stand and he wanted her abducted to undergo an abortion, and if that failed, to have her killed.
"He said, 'We're going to hire a doctor, we're going to abort her and if that doesn't work we're going to whack her,' " William Welch testified during a preliminary hearing to determine whether Blake must stand trial on charges of murdering his wife, Bonny Lee Bakley.
Bakley, 44, was shot as she sat in the couple's car near Blake's favorite restaurant, Vitello's, where they dined on May 4, 2001. Blake, 69, has claimed he went back into the restaurant to retrieve a gun he carried for protection and found Bakley shot when he returned to the car.
Welch, who became a private detective in 1985 after 21 years as a Los Angeles police officer, said the actor described the plan in October 1999 during a walk by the Los Angeles River.
Welch said he had done private detective work for Blake and had become friends with him by the time of the conversation.
"He looked me in the eye and I believed him," said Welch, who testified he refused to carry out the plot.
Earlier in the day, Blake sat grimly as prosecutors played a taped phone call in which the actor berated his wife for getting pregnant.
"You lied to me. You double-crossed me. You double-dealt me, and that's who you are," the former "Baretta" star told Bakley.
On the tape, Bakley sniffled and cried as she insisted her only concern was to stay with Blake.
"All I ever wanted was to be with you," she said.
Blake urged her to get an abortion, suggesting "a pill from France."
At the hearing, Blake's lawyer challenged a coroner's work on the autopsy. Deputy Medical Examiner Jeffrey Gutstadt testified that a bullet that went through Bakley's cheek was fired in a slightly upward direction.
In a long cross-examination, lawyer Thomas Mesereau Jr. suggested the autopsy never exactly established Bakley's position when she was shot, the height of her assailant, or which of the two shots that killed her came first.
The coroner testified that Bakley was killed by one bullet that went through her right cheek and into her brain and another bullet that entered through her right shoulder. He noted that there were no defensive wounds on Bakley's arms.
The prosecution's key witnesses are expected to be two former Hollywood stuntmen who say Blake tried to pay them to kill Bakley. When that failed, prosecutors say, the actor shot her himself.
Earle Caldwell, a former bodyguard, driver and handyman for Blake, is charged with conspiring with the actor. Blake faces life in prison without parole if convicted.
:: John 3/31/2003 06:16:00 PM [+] ::